Updated: Aug 10
Truth be Told
I will never forget that gut wrenching moment in my 6th grade Math class when my formidable and ogre-like teacher, Mrs. Loomis, announced to my peers that I was “faking it.” She basically called me out as a liar, and I was mortified. In retrospect, though, she was right. Although her method was faulty, my feigning understanding and furiously nodding “yes,”
like a bobblehead when I had zero idea of what was going on, didn’t help my case. I had good reason to lie! Not only did I not understand story problems, but I was also too terrified of the wrath of Khan to speak up and ask for help. In that room, no one dared to raise a hand, bravely volunteer, or felt safe enough to let their guard down. Death by humiliation was imminent. Fear of being wrong or publicly chastised kept us from telling the truth and asking for what we needed at the time, understanding and guidance. It happens to all of us.
There are Mrs. Loomises in all walks of life. Your aunt Betty, your great grandfather Arthur, your last boss, that grumpy waiter at your favorite restaurant, or the annoying driver who won’t let you in, all have the potential to be the bullies of nightmares. Confronting those monsters or scary people in your day-to-day life is not so easy. Standing up and saying something as simple as “No.”, or “It’s not ok for you to treat me this way!”, or even, “I don’t know the answer,” takes badass courage. I’ve felt like that little terrified 6th grader on countless occasions, in my adult life as well. Sometimes, actually most times. It’s easier telling your truth to strangers rather than it is to someone you care about.
On Monday evening in Tea & Tarot we discussed the merits and pitfalls of drawing ‘The Hierophant’ card, which is the messenger of holding truth, in a reading. Talk about an imposing and intimidating image! In my deck, a bearded, elderly man sits on a throne with pomp and circumstance all around him and delivers an unspoken aura of severity, religion, restraint, and respect. This pope-like figure stirs up all kinds of patriarchal baggage, self-imposed limitations, and hard fast rules. There is good news here, though. The positive side is victory. And with self-trust, care, clarity, and being true to your highest good, your path is headed for redemption and triumph. Through hard work, dealing with the prescribed rules in the game of life, and having the fortitude to persevere even when shit gets real, success is only a sincere, voiced commitment away.
So, the next time you come face to face with a “Mrs. Loomis Moment,” don’t bobblehead. Do as the hierophant does, have faith in yourself and take the higher road. Allow yourself to channel the righteous truth that lives in your belly. Your words are a direct reflection of your values and beliefs so choose what’s true for you... And then SPEAK THEM.